Do you want to have happier, healthier relationships in 2010? Here is what you can do:
If you are dating the wrong guy.
If you think you are dating the wrong guy–or have a habit of dating the wrong guys–resolve to break that habit. Think about what qualities are important to you and why? Assess your current relationship. Don’t settle for someone just because you don’t want to be alone.
If you are engaged to the wrong guy.
If you are planning a wedding to the wrong guy, please call it off. You don’t have to go through with it. No one ever regrets calling off a wedding. They only regret when they don’t!
If you are married to the wrong guy.
If you are in a rocky relationship, run, don’t walk, to a therapist. If he won’t go with you, then go by yourself. Figure out what you want and need in your relationship. Work on it together. If he won’t work on it, then it’s up to you to figure out what you need to ensure a happier, healthier you in 2010.
If you need to break up with the wrong guy.
Make 2010 the year that you tap into your inner courage and get out of your relationship. Think of what you are missing by sticking around in a dead-end relationship. Talk to a friend, set a date, and make your plans to move on.
If you are with the right guy.
Whether you are married or dating, make sure you don’t take the right guy for granted. It’s so easy to fall into a rut and not do the little things that show you care. Bake him his favorite cookies. Scrape the ice off his car window. Make him a big pot of chili. It doesn’t have to be expensive, just thoughtful.
One final note–if you have a friendship that is dragging you down, address that, too. If you are on the outs with a longtime friend, do what it takes to resolve that problem. And if you have a toxic friendship, maybe it’s time to tell that friend buh-bye. Most of us don’t have enough time to spend with the friends we do love and care about. Don’t waste time with a friend who brings you down.
2011 will be here in 361 days. Resolve to use that time to create happier, healthier relationships!
