It’s been two weeks since we launched, How Not to Marry the Wrong Guy. The wine bottles have been recycled, the leftovers from our launch party have been eaten and it’s back to life for these two Midwestern moms! It’s difficult to be a published author and still be responsible for keeping the toilets clean.
Once the glitter was swept away, we were pleasantly surprised to have received numerous emails from women, throughout the country, who were somehow touched by our words and our voices. We are always honored that complete strangers share their difficult relationship stories with us as a way to not only help themselves but also help others.
This week alone we heard from two 60+ year old women who both described themselves as “starting a new chapter” and “deciding what kind of a relationship I want.” It’s never too late to set an intention for what you want in your life! We heard from women who ignored the obvious red flags, women who are staying in relationships for the SAKE of being in a relationship. We also heard from one woman who describes her relationship with her fiance in terms of suffering. She suffers day to day without any sense of direction and she was desperate for us to tell her what direction to take. We would love to be able to have that much power but unfortunately she is the only one who holds the key to that answer. I hear it from my therapy clients, as well. “Just tell me what to do so I can go back to living a normal, happy life without all of this pain.” I told this woman the same thing I tell my clients. I will gladly sit down with you and provide the safe place for you to map out your journey, but it is up to you hop into the driver’s seat and take control of the wheel. You are in charge of making it to your final destination, no one else. Stop sitting passively in the passenger seat. This could mean many different things: admitting you are unhappy in your relationship, breaking off a serious relationship, canceling an engagement, or getting some help from a professional. Whatever your decision is, own it, honor it and take action. If you don’t, you might miss out on your chance to head out on that open highway!
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